Happy wala bday

I get all too hysterical when my b'day approaches. It is normal this time of year and its has become a routine as well. But i keep asking myself so many questions and to add that are many anxieties that i feel like drowning.

Birthdays are always special and precious. The memories we cherish, the happening that become stories-  sometimes cliche. Like how i ran all the way and all around, just to save my bum from getting kicked.

Bdays never bring the peace you desire, even the most silent ones. There's this hype of going wild and crazy on bdays - which of course is practiced in friends rather families.
Bdays are about confusions, i remember it. One year, i was in 12th and lived away from home. It was my bday and i thought i will go home in the evening. I asked the doctor for lift. And we started home, it was 20 min journey to home. At the same time, my parents had decided to visit me. Of course, we had no means of communication. Doctor saw them crossing us and told me. I shouted 'Dad' and they saw us and turned around, and we all came home. I always remember this incident on my bdays.

Bday is everything, you name it. The only sad part is it comes once in a year, so we have to cheer - no matter what.

Smile:A continuous relay

This past week, on Friday evening i wrapped up my work and started home. As i was passing through the lobby, i came across a woman.  She was quite pale with days work, and was quite out of sorts with dressing sense. I looked at her, she looked at me. She looked down and away from me, and started to smile. I was amused at first and thought she had gone mad. But the thought of mad woman made me smile somehow. A teammate crossed me at the same time and started to smile as well.

How simple it is to spread something! You see it or hear it and do or tell the same to someone else. That someone will relay it forward. This relay is countless by countless one.

Although, they say the relaying can do bad things, it's up to us. We have to decide and choose, at the individual level, what we relay. In my case a simple smile made my Friday memorable in the form of this blog post. Choice making can be troublesome at times but asking ourselves some questions can help. Question can be about the purpose of the relay or its basic need. While the smile by the lady my day, if i had gone on and smiled at some other lady in the office, it wouldn't have gone down quite well.

Its always beautiful to relay, which most of us relate to gossiping. Good or bad, relaying is indifferent to emotional alignment of what is being relayed. I have become a big fan of a relay that smile has become and hope that it goes down well as a day to day life routine.

I am taking to other of means relaying, like relaying a book. Its still a work in progress. More on this later. Till then "Happy relaying".

Scientists in disguise - my Roomies

We cannot attend to every event or person around us – this is termed as ‘Selective attention’ in psychology.  That's how humans are.

If I go by this theory, I have found the answer to the biggest question posed to me - Off course - by my roomies. They have always wondered why I pay no attention while watching some movie or reading one of those hefty novels. 

There was this one incident when I was watching some movie with headsets on. They all gathered around me and started shouting at me – all the names they call me. I was not aware of it. I had seen them gather around me. I could see them talking but in flashes, as i was gripped by that movie. They started raising their voice and i could hear them calling my name.

In that moment i chose not to reply but listen to what was going on. They were shouting my name one by one with growing pitch and loudness, trying to merit a response from me. Maybe they had a competition going on.

I could hear one of them putting forward a theory”Indrajeet would respond to a specific roomy only”. So all other were out of competition and the one man was up and roaring at me. I felt the situation might get to screams via loud-louder-loudest. So I chose to shout back and ask him to shut the heck off.  There were loud cheers accompanied by the victory dance.

Rohit who won was happy for the victory. Rohan was busy manipulating people into thinking that it was his theory that had won. The other Rohit was busy contemplating some sarcastic barbs and i was wondering “what’s wrong with these people, why can’t I enjoy one good movie?”  In that moment I was awry of their little adventure.

While i sit down read experimental methods in psychology, i get the feeling that my roomies are scientists in disguise. Why i say this is because the psychologists do the same experiments with so called ‘natural’ setup. I am the object of roomies’ experiment. While i feel proud of their scientific approach, I am little disheartened that i was  not one them in this experiment! :( So I could call myself a scientist in disguise! :)

Looking back - the 'e' way

Okay. You got me. Looking way back: I didn't really turn around to look back but it was more of going through the pages of internet and seeing what has happened. It so happens I had created a weird blog - as it feels now. kidthemaratha.blogspot.com
Te blogname OMG! Proud? -yes!
The photos? - my idols!
The theme? - what a college student in India can cry foul about? - resevations!
Looking back: i started blogging on the my employer's internal blooging site. My friends recommended me to report a company fucntion, that colled off my interest in that blog.
Looking Forward now. Done! thats all i had at that time, but it seems i took more of a studious approach those days than the 'go by your instincts' approach to write one post in all these years.
The reason i am writing today is, one of my friend took the stage and suggested that I write a blog. I was like, "I am more of 'think and forget' person, i cant come to terms with writing regularly"- but one post in 5 years is way par appaling and i had to give it a serious thought.
I have no idea - to this point - why my friend suggested it. May be people speak with the flow, just to make you feel better. But i have taken this idea of writing a blog, the rest is my friends liability - epecially if that friend does not like what i post. Rest assured, posts will flow in!